Should I give in to rekindle my relationship?

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Should I give in to rekindle my relationship?

I need your advice.
Is my situation with my man serious? I met him three months ago, and two months into the relationship, he proposed to me. On the same night of the engagement, he requested for s°x, which I declined, insisting that if he paid my bride price, I would give him what he desired.
The next morning, I returned to my place, and ever since, our relationship has been strained. He doesn’t seem to focus on preparing for the marriage. I’m a virgin, which he knew when we started, and he agreed.
How can I rekindle the love and attention in our relationship? I truly care as I don’t want to lose him.

Chinasa Answered question March 12, 2024

Consider having a calm and honest conversation with your partner about the current state of your relationship. Share your feelings, emphasizing that you value the connection you both have. Express your concerns about the strain you’ve noticed and the lack of focus on preparing for the marriage.
Reiterate your boundaries regarding intimacy and emphasize the importance of mutual respect for each other’s choices. Discuss the expectations you both had when entering the relationship and ensure that there is clarity on both sides.
Ask your partner about their perspective and feelings, encouraging open communication. There might be misunderstandings or unspoken expectations that need to be addressed. Be willing to listen and understand their point of view.
Additionally, talk about the future of your relationship and set realistic goals together. Discuss your expectations for the engagement period, marriage preparations, and any concerns either of you may have. This can help create a shared vision for your future together.
Remember, building a strong foundation requires effort from both parties. By fostering open communication, understanding each other’s needs, and working towards common goals, you can rekindle the love and attention in your relationship.

However, one thing you must always have at the back of your mind is that as much as we want everybody to be good, some still have mischief in their hearts.

I know of situations of men using “I go marry” just to get into the pants of a lady only to run away afterwards.

Carefully access your situation and study him properly with clear eyes to know if he is legit or not.

QandA Answered question March 12, 2024
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